IT'S OK NOT TO BE OK.

This morning I entered a room and I found 6 ladies in it, one of them was having a bad morning, she was crying. 

What I noticed was that as sad as she was, no one was actually near her although they all seemed to be feeling sad for her but no one was being affectionate with her. They all sympathized with her from afar. I took a step closer to her after I asked one of them what was happened to her, and she was clueless at the time, as I was getting to her, what was in mind was the thought that in most cases when I am in a bad space I rarely get hugs or any sign of physical affection so, I know how bad that is. I went and hugged her told her that she is not alone in whatever it is she is going through. It felt awkward for a moment but it was a unique gesture I felt like doing.

It was something I don't usually do but felt the need to do it at that time. What caught my attention was a question two ladies asked her as i entered the room and the question was "who died?"

That reminded me of a saying "Mosadi o tshwara thipa ka mo bo galeng." I remembered how woman are bruised everyday and how they can't open up or express how they feel because they are expected to be strong. 

I went to her and gave her what I would appreciate if I was in that state, a hug. I told her she's not alone, in all she is going through.I assured her that it's absolutely ok not to be ok and she is not weak or attention seeking as she is in that state.

That reminded me that as woman, attention is what we want the most, we want to be attended, to be recognized and appreciated, even if we are seen by just one person and they acknowledge us it is enough.

If there is someone you know who might be in need of a hug, just give it to them and you shall see how fulfilling that is.

It felt so great to be the difference.

~ I am Hannah 🥰✍️